I'm probably one of the most relaxed guys around. That's not to imply that I don't typically have an opinion - everybody knows that I do. BUT, I'm usually pretty comfortable with going with the flow.
So many of us today are super-rigid and aren't very good at releasing the little things that don't generally go our way. I think one of the best pieces of advice I can give (and I'm sure someone has said it before me - just not sure who) is that there is no need for us to worry about things which we have absolutely no way to affect change on. If you can't change circumstances or affect an unavoidable outcome in a given situation, there is little point to worrying yourself about it. Consistent worry is less than 2 clicks from depression, and it's directly tied to a generally pessimistic outlook in life - also, in my opinion, a cause of depression.
Concerning ourselves with things like the weather, whether or not your guy is President, your natural ability in sports, whether your team will win the Superbowl, or any other issue that's largely out of your sphere of influence is unhealthy, and frankly, it's silly. That's not to imply you should not appreciate the gravity of given situations and work toward affecting change, but if you do that, leave out the worrying part of the process and simply concentrate on the way you are bringing positivity to an otherwise negative issue.
Along with not fretting about things you can't change, do what you can to not sweat the small stuff.
My wife and I are best friends, but we do not always agree, and we have little things that get under our skin about the other (as does any friendship or marriage). If we concentrate on those things or give them much credence, we'd be in a perpetual state of arguing and negativity and would ultimately always be focusing on the bad features of one another rather than the good. And truth be told, (unfortunately) the negative always seems to make much more noise than the good.
So we have come up with a remedy that helps us beat back the desire to address all of the little things that bother us about the other. It's called the 3-day test.
It's simple. For any given issue that bothers us, we ask the question, "Will this matter in 3 days?" If the answer is no, then it's probably some silly issue that we need to let go of and forget about. If we think that a particular issue will matter in three days, then we do give it more credence and we approach each other with the issue. What we have found in our friendship and marriage, and what I expect you will too, is that an overwhelming majority of the problems that come up in our relationship usually do not pass the 3-day test.
Letting go of the things that really don't matter not only helps you remain optimistic, but it also allows you to go with the flow of things. At your job. In your relationships. In the home. Wherever. Whenever. And, the less stress in your life, the less likely you'll slip into a depression, or if you are already depressed, the easier it will be to climb out.
Make a conscious decision right now to avoid worrying about things you cannot change, and to begin applying the 3-day test to the things that get you riled up or upset. I'm certain you'll see your stress levels come down, your happiness increase, and any depression dissipate. This is just one more way to beat depression.
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